THE J FAMILY {newborn}

Erika Kao Photography  |  Bergen County Photographer  |  Wyckoff, New Jersey

"Life-changing" is a term that doesn't even begin to cover what it's like to bring a child into the world. The moment a child is welcomed into a family, a switch flips, and what you have are two distinct periods: before child and after child. Life is never the same again.

But having a child when you already have a child at home, well, that's really something special. You now have two small humans! They need you not only for basic survival, but for love, attention, stimulation, company, and at least a thousand other things.

I photographed this couple and their son about a year ago, and I was absolutely thrilled to learn that they were going to be having a baby girl! I had just been coming off my first year of being a mother to two small humans, so my heart was full for what they were about to embark upon.

Having two children is a lesson in human development. (Having one child is also a lesson in human development; and having two is really just a different kind of lesson.) You're probably just really getting to know your first child's nuances when the second child comes along, and you have to remind yourself that this second child isn't just a carbon copy of your first child. They may be similar in temperament, but quite honestly, they could be as different as the sun and the moon, as winter and summer, as black and white.

This little curly-haired boy was not quite 2 1/2 when his baby sister was born. He was almost a baby himself! I spent some time watching him play with his Matchbox cars (of which he has about 8,240,082), and then we all went up to his room so that he could show me some of his favorite toys and books. He is so full of energy and life, that it didn't take long before he was ready for a nap. At that time, I focused my photos on the newest member of the family.

Being invited into people's homes during such a special time is nothing short of an absolute gift. I consider it an honor and a pleasure, and I can only hope that I leave them with photos that have captured everything that is true and good and beautiful in their lives at that moment.

My gratitude, as ever, to this family.